How will you know if you’re with someone who may not go the distance? Here is a list to help guide your heart and head. It’s my opinion that the key to a happy relationship boils down to your partner having many of the following attributes-
She makes you want to be a better man
Stop making that face… Any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn’t have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. It could be love.
She gets along with friends & family
A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to your dad’s stories, and hang out with your friends, she will enjoy it. She’ll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. And she won’t try to get you to ditch your best buds.
There is no bad press attached to her name
Time and time again, we come across women who we immediately think are amazing. However, once we go back to our friend circles and mention her name, the first thing you hear is utter laughter. There is nothing worse than a “homey hopper,” or the girl with bad press (people know her fictional and non-fictional history.)
You know you have found a good girl whenever you mention her name and no one responds with negative comments. A girl without any bad press can mean she’s not out much or she does not participate in frowned-upon behavior (i.e. abusing drugs, having multiple partners, etc).
Is someone you can live with someday
You may prefer radically different settings on the thermostat. Your furniture styles may clash horrifically. These types of differences can be managed, but adapting to chronic disrespect, polar opposite personalities, etc., may be nearly impossible. When considering a potential marriage candidate, also consider how your temperaments and values will intersect.
Supports your interests and passions
You won’t share every interest, but your significant other can still cheer you on from the sidelines (literally or metaphorically). Disclaimer: If your interests are destructive (binge drinking, playing video games to the point that your muscles begin to atrophy, etc.) a loving partner will not condone these habits.
Good relationship with her dad
This is a given. On the flipside, be careful about a girl who’s too much of a ‘Daddy’s Girl’ and who runs to him for every little issue. You’ll constantly be compared to her dad and this is when you lay the law down and let her know you’re not her dad and you won’t tolerate being compared or disrespected.
The perfect blend is a girl who honors her dad, respects him and is obedient. Trust me, she will treat you the same.
She’s Not Materialistic
Now I like a girl with fashion sense and who has a taste in fine things and the baller lifestyle, HOWEVER, there is a huge difference between a girl who wants you for you and a girl who wants you for your lifestyle and money. Find a girl who while she has CLASS, she’s not feigning for it, nor is it a dealbreaker if you don’t have money. The girl who takes the bus with you is the same girl who should be in your Bentley. If she scoffs at the bus, then what the hell do you think she will do when all hell breaks loose in your life and you lose everything? (God forbid, but hypothetically)
She is in the same place as you
In my experience, timing and location can impact relationships more than just about anything else. Does she want to travel the world? Is she stable? Does she just want something casual? Is she interested in having kids? Is she religious? A lot of these questions can be deal-breakers, and the more you have in common the better.
©Arjun Karath for PosterGully.com